Denver Post – I Want The Schools To Parent My Children

Yesterday’s (Sunday) DP has a big front-page screed about the urgent need to teach children how to have sex. Mark Thrun is identified as a physician at Denver Public Health and the co-parent (tipoff – if you don’t want to be known as “father” you probably are more than a little bit of a pussy-whipped Alan Alda caring and weeping proto-male) of two spirited little boys. He’s also an Assistant Professor of Medicine at CU focusing on AIDS research.

So what’s the big issue for the Post? The schools are not teaching kids enough about how to use condoms. In fact, 30 percent of the public schools are teaching abstinence (the horror! – teaching the one absolutely assured method of not getting pregnant or a sexually transmitted disease).

Of course, its all the fault of “a few vocal opponents of comprehensive sex ed” – which we all know is code for the sexually repressed white Christians who hate all people who aren’t white and Christian like them – the filthy Christians!

So why is it so important that public schools teach sex?

Occasionally, the brave among us might begin the conversations at home. Awkward and stinted, we try to muddle through “The Talk” as best we can.

Some of us, however, never even get that far. Instead, we assume that the educational system will step in. Or, at least, that is what we hope.

So I’m such a pussy I can’t talk to my children about sex – I want some stranger to tell them about it. I completely abdicate my responsibilities as a parent to the all-knowing, perfect government education system who will fill my kids brain with some information about sex – just so long as I don’t have to do it.

But then in steps the filthy idiots who don’t want to teach my children some things that I want them to know about – condoms, birth control, homosexuality, bestiality, polygamy, whatever. It would seem that logically this would be the point where I would step in as a parent and start providing whatever sexual information I wanted my children to know. If you are a parent and you want your kids to know this information – tell them. They are, after all, your children.

But this is apparently far too logical a choice for Dr. Thurn. His choice – pitch a hissy fit to force the schools to tell the kids what YOU want them to know regardless of what anyone else believes.

We abdicate our parental and societal obligations to our youth by choosing not to prepare them to be responsible when they do become sexually active.

This is where we as parents need to step in. It is imperative that we take on the task of encouraging and collaborating with schools to develop appropriate sex ed courses.

So you are willing to stand up to your right as a parent to scream and yell about what is being taught to everyone, but take absolutely no responsibility as a parent to teach your children what you want them to know?

Typical gutless liberalism.  Force everybody to believe as I do, just don’t make me actually do anything myself.

2 thoughts on “Denver Post – I Want The Schools To Parent My Children

  1. Hey, I’m a liberal and I actually agree with you on some of the things that you said.

    Yeah, IT IS our responsibility as parents to teach our kids about abstinence, sexually transmitted diseases, birth control, condoms, and…..well, other things if you choose. I chose the most responsible things. I don’t really think we need to be discussing bestiality. Isn’t that illegal? Cruelty to animals?

    And you’re right: TOO MANY parents assume that since the kids are getting sexual education at school, that they don’t need to have that talk (or, talks). I want you to know that this isn’t a liberal/conservative issue. Lots of us liberal parents feel the same way: parents need to take responsibility!

    I think where we might differ is in our opinions about sex education at school. Kids (from about 10 years and older) need to know the scientific facts about human reproduction, the medical facts about disease and pregnancy, and the full range of behaviors and practices to prevent unwanted pregnancies.

    I’ll agree 100% that we should teach abstinence and even teach the health benefits of celibacy (there are health benefits from practicing celibacy which are little discussed).

    But, where we may differ, is that I believe in teaching about birth control. Celibacy isn’t for everyone. And perhaps, teens may find that their lives are more varied than our ideals. Some may go through periods of sexual activity, and then turn to celibacy for a while, or vice versa. It’s important that we teach kids safe methods of birth control, and which methods are safest.

    I also believe that we should teach kids about the horror of abortion, and warn them that if circumstances force them to make THAT choice, then the emotional turmoil and lifelong regret are really not worth the pleasure of careless sexual behavior.

    I would also agree with you when you say that parents should be aware of what teachers are presenting in sex education. Discussing different kinds of lifestyles is not really age appropriate for minors. Makes for a good college course perhaps (family structures are not the same for all cultures, and some people in the United States practice alternative family lives), but for children, generally, in our culture, lifestyle choices and questions about sexual orientation are best left to parental guidance.

    One way that we parents can get involved is to BE involved. Don’t just allow the teacher or the school to decide the curriculum. Demand that the parents get a role in deciding what is taught. If abstinence isn’t being taught, then we should insist that it be added. If birth control isn’t being completely explained, we should insist that it is.

    I don’t think it’s a good general rule to leave everything to parents, though. What about the kid whose parents don’t tell them a damn thing? We want all kids to get the basic information and the basic education so we can do everything we can to prevent unwanted pregnancy: even for the kid whose parents won’t teach them. It’s in our interest as a society.

  2. Good to know that someone taking it serious!
    cause we don’t want to face a problem about teen pregnant.
    but what age shall be good to start to talk about sex with them??

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